no hard feelings by liz fosslien and mollie west duffy

* Be less passionate about your job : Taking a chill pill can actually make you healthier and more focused. In times of conflict and miscommunication, try to talk about your emotions without getting emotional. * Remember that your feelings aren't facts : What we say isn't always what we mean. We'll share some surprising new strategies, such as: * Be selectively vulnerable : Be honest about how you feel, but don't burden others with your deepest problems. Our goal in this book is to teach you how to figure out which emotions to toss, which to keep to yourself, and which to express in order to be both happier and more effective. Ignoring or suppressing what you feel hurts your health and productivity - but so does letting your emotions run wild. Easier said than done! As both organizational consultants and regular people, we know what it's like to experience uncomfortable emotions at work - everything from mild jealousy and insecurity to panic and rage. We're expected to be authentic, but not too authentic. How do you stop the office grouch from ruining your day? How do you enjoy a vacation without obsessing about the unanswered emails in your inbox? If you're a boss, what should you do when your new, eager hire wants to follow you on Instagram? The modern workplace can be an emotional minefield, filled with confusing power structures and unwritten rules.

Wall Street Journal Bestseller! Next Big Idea Club selectionchosen by Malcolm Gladwell, Susan Cain, Dan Pink, and Adam Grant as one of the 'two most groundbreaking new nonfiction reads of the season!' 'A must-read that topples the idea that emotions don't belong in the workplace.' -Susan Cain, author of Quiet A hilarious guide to effectively expressing your emotions at the office, finding fulfillment, and defining work-life balance on your own terms.

No hard feelings by liz fosslien and mollie west duffy